Want to be more assertive? Do this one thing

Recently the Daily Tip has discussed 18 times when it’s OK to be assertive, the assertive style, when you’re not assertive, what being assertive isn’t, and how to be more assertive.

Becoming assertive is something that must be practiced if you’re going to get good at it.

As much as I know you enjoy the Daily Tip, reading about it is not enough.

You have to make it your own, get confident doing it.

Here’s how.

Try speaking assertively at least one time every day for a week.

Use your practice agreements with people if that makes it easier.

After the encounter, think about what went well and what can be improved. Journal about it if that helps. If you don’t get it right, mourn the mistake and move on. Be your own safe space and get a little uncomfortable.

Respectful assertiveness is one of the most important conflict resolution skills you can develop.

By clearly articulating your perspective, feelings, and needs, you are defending your rights, respecting others’ rights, not making the listener guess at your needs, setting boundaries, and benefiting everyone involved.