Dialogue or debate?
I hear people using the terms dialogue and debate interchangeably.
They’re not the same.
In a dialogue, you:
Work collaboratively toward a common understanding of the issue, even if you don’t reach an agreement
Identify areas of common ground
Listen carefully to understand one another
Enlarge your understanding
Unpack assumptions so you can check incorrect understandings of one another
Potentially change your mind about something
Begin from a place of mutual respect and concern
In a debate, you:
Engage in a competition to prove the accuracy and superiority of your position
Want to “win” the debate, such as with an acknowledgment or conclusion that your position is better
Listen carefully to find flaws in the other’s argument and give counterarguments
Affirm your own pre-existing understanding or position
Focus on undermining the opposing idea rather than the relationship with that person
Having a dialog can preserve relationships and problem-solve, whereas debate can create resentment and more conflict.