Rumble Starters
On teams without vulnerability, there is no trust. Without trust, we have fear, resentment, and judgment. When we know each other, we can open up.
As Brene Brown tells us, it’s vitally important to “rumble” with our disagreements, differences of opinions, and shortcomings.
We can’t do this in the heat of the moment. Here’s an exercise from Dare To Lead that you can use at your next team meeting to build this skill with yourself and coworkers.
Break into groups of two or three and give each person the opportunity to practice some of these rumble starters. It’s often helpful to think of a hard conversation that you’ve had or that you’re planning to have, and role-play. Make them real, but safe.
Rumble Starters:
The story I make up is . . .
I’m curious about . . .
Tell me more about...
That’s not my experience (instead of “You’re wrong about her, him, them, it, this . . .”).
Help me understand . . .
Walk me through . . .
We’re both dug in. Tell me about your passion around this.
Tell me why this doesn’t fit/work for you.
I’m working from these assumptions—what about you?
What problem are we trying to solve?
