Always lead with the positive. Always

Here’s a way to make people open up to you more, to like you, to want to be with you.

Always lead with the positive.

“What did you think of that meeting?”

“It was a total waste of time. When it got out of control, John should have refocused the discussion. It was his meeting. He’s incompetent.”

When you lead with the negative, that’s the impression you leave. Negative feelings. Negative energy. Blech.

Only negative people want to be with negative people.

Let’s try again...

“What did you think of that meeting?”

“I thought Kalisha made some good points, but overall, the meeting could have been much more productive. John called the meeting. He should have taken control and refocused the discussion when it went sideways.”

What if you don’t have something positive to say?

Then you’re being negative. Try harder. You can always find something positive to say.

Always.