Everyone’s wearing a mask

Psychologists describe “The Mask” as the persona we present to the world—a carefully curated version of ourselves designed to earn approval, avoid rejection, or cover something uncomfortable.

We wear masks to hide insecurity, fear, or shame.

Some act confident because they feel anxious.

Some play it cool when they’re just dying to be liked.

Some overachieve to avoid feeling unworthy.

And here’s a sad fact to make matters worse: shame is everywhere right now.

It’s not just personal—it’s cultural, even institutionalized. Shame is a weapon wielded by our parents, teachers, media, and politicians, beating us into obedience.

Don’t believe me, just read social media comments.

Fortunately, there’s a paradox inherent in masks.

Even while wearing the mask, most people are hoping others will see through it—to the real them.

Not to expose them. Not to fix them. Just to recognize them. As human. As enough.

So, here’s your actionable tip:

Next time you’re with someone—anyone—ask yourself:

• “What do they want me to feel about them right now?”

• “What do they want me to notice?”

This isn’t about judgment. It’s about compassion.

And when you start seeing people through the mask, they feel it—and often, they start showing you more of who they really are.